Elma 101: Ways to win my heart

#30DaysWritingChallenge #Day17

At the very beginning, I would like to remind anyone that it is not easy to get to the level of owning my heart, both in terms of friendship or romantic relationship. If you are wondering and considering to give it a try, here is a little guide list for you:

Be prepared for honesty

I say A when I want A; or B if it fits me better. I will tell you when I’m not in the mood of talking. I will tell you if I feel hurt, embarrassed, confused, happy, angry, annoyed, surprised, or feel nothing at all.

Make me laugh

Throw me your best and dry jokes effortlessly, naturally, and see how I react to it. If laugh hard, you’ve already got my attention more. However, don’t expect that I will often show my humorous side because it is like a bomb that usually explode in unpredictable time.

Confusion is a routine

“What do you want to eat?”
“Which place do you prefer to go?”
To those kind of questions, my answer would probably always be ‘I don’t know’ because it’s hard for me to decide for something. That’s why, it always feels good to be with anyone who can take decisions and suggestions. But once I say my answer right away, it may be the thing that I really want the most at that time or… I just at least say something.

Me time is a must

You can have your time with the other friends, your family, and yourself — and me too. Even my closest friends, we don’t spend much time together or send chat too often. But when we do, we do it deeply and in thoroughly. We can spend hours or even spend some days to enjoy the moment together and we can chat as if we’re going to publish a novel.

Knowledge about the world

Those who can tell me about things that I don’t know yet are attractive for me because I like to learn new things and listen to various stories.

Staying for sincerity

If you’re sincere to be the part of my world, I can see it. Especially when you can stay despite my mood swings or after facing me shutting down for a little while or after accompanying me through the ups and downs. If you’re sincere, you’ll stay and I’ll know and I’ll try to give you more because that’s really precious to me.

Start to think of stepping back? No worries, you’re totally allowed to do that.

I write the points above as the basic knowledge to get closer to me and I give you an overview of what I would do if I start to gain an interest to you. I would do the points above and if I see that you’re not comfortable of me being me, I will walk away from your life with no hesitation.

Be true about yourself. Do not try to look overly nice. Show me how you interact with people. Show me what you like and what you don’t. Show me your thoughts. Show me your intention. See how I react towards it and we will know whether you want to keep going and I want to let you in or you want to make a U-turn and I will fully respect your decision to not come closer anymore.

My age is not young anymore, so I become pickier in putting people in my life to make my life and their life more efficient, more colourful, more meaningful, happier, and greater.

What I want from people is what I will do if I want to be a part of people’s world, because I believe that I will reap what I plant.

Xx

-el